I love to watch movies. And I love to watch them on the big screen. And I enjoy it even more if some friend of mine is with me. Usually I go with my friend Mr. D. Yes I don't want to tell his real name.
But he has one problem, he is way to scared of his mother. She doesn't considers going to cinema an honorable thing. And she has a very bad temper.
I just met him and asked him if he would like to go with me to MI:III. I loved the first two installments and I am sure I am going to love this one too. Mr. D just gave his exams and was happy to go. But as usual was afraid of his mother.
He knows that I don't care what others think. I just do what is right. He told me that I should not tell people that we go to cinema. He thought that since people don't consider it a good thing, they won't respect us.
And as usual I told him that we should not live like that. Its our life and we deserve to live it and enjoy it. Because no matter what you do and how you do it, there will always be a percentage of people who would not like it and others who would respect you for that very act. In the end it all comes down to the fact that every one thinks differently due to which you can never please every one. Thats why Islam tells us to please only Allah which is far more easier than pleasing many people.
I also asked him that for how long he thinks he can allow his mother to live his life for him. He will have to some day stop letting her control him.
To which he asked, that should he fight with her. I said, no. He doesn't has to fight, just respectfully tell her to stop being his owner. And if she gets angry, just stay quite and don't answer any of her statements or questions. As Quran tells us that we can't make deaf people hear the truth.
I see alot of parents hurting their children through selfish or stupid desires. Many parents either because of love or because of ego try to control the lives of their children. Which destroys the confidence of the child.
If your parents are like that, then I would suggest you stand against them. Quran tells us to respect, to be thankful, to be good to our parents and not to shout at them. But Islam does not expects every one to love their parents. Islam orders us to kindly and respectfully tell parents what is right and what is wrong. And if they insist on following the wrong, Islam orders you not to obey them and stay firm.
My friend laughed and said what if they kick me out of the house. I smiled and said then let them. You can leave them if they insist on doing the wrong. Thats what prophet Ibrahim(as) did. All that is expected from us is that if they come to us for help, we should help them and thats what being nice is. If they want you to help them in committing a sin, don't.
I know that its not easy. It takes time and patience for confidence to get strong, but it is only possible when you know that you should not fear your parents, your teacher, your relatives and friends. You are not anyones slave nor are you anyones owner.
You should only fear Allah.